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You may be on to something here. I remember in my youth, taking vacations; something I havent done for millennia; and it would take me several days to wind down from the stress of work I was taking vacation from. If I had a week to play and frolic, the first few days were fraught with anxiety and stress because I could not bring myself to settle down and relax. The more I tried the more tense I got. My motor skills were at full speed ahead from the life I ordinarily lead. Mind you, at the time I lived and worked in New York City which is renowned for its fast pace. I would go so far as to say it took the entire week to calm down, which made taking a vacation a futile endeavor since by the end of that week, it was necessary to get up to speed and go back to work. I feel I am not alone in this and it is the bane of the working class in this country. Today, Ive overcome these maladies. I essentially work for myself. I paint and exhibit and write on blogs and commune with other who are doing the same. I do have to add here that there is a drawback and that is I have managed supplant one anxiety for another. The stress I put on myself to succeed at being a painter. Unless we can control anxiety and keep it to a low hum, we may suffer from the periods of relaxation that are few and far between.
Dear Robert, Back when the earth was cooling and I was fresh out of art school. I had my spiffy diploma and I guess I was a bit arrogant. I remember thinking as soon as I get signed by a gallery, THEN, Ill create all this cool and wondrous art. There wasn’t internet or any of this social networking we all rely on so heavily these days. No joke, and big surprise, the galleries didn’t come. So, I started painting just for fun and get some work generated. I did loads of work on everything I could get my hands on. I showed my art in every hair salon, coffee shop or restaurant that had a wall with a nail on it. My stuff was everywhere. Painting has come to define me and now at the ripe old age of 51, I paint everyday. I have painted a ton of canvas with enough paint to fill ten swimming pools, but what excites me more, is the acres of work I still have a head of me. I can have the most horrible day and yet go into my studio, drag some paint across a canvas with my brush and the world just seems a little better. If you have a knack, great, its another 10,000 hours. While I am in full production these days for my new show in early 2013, I know that I love being an artist and that I paint every day because I am a painter. Defined, once and for all. John Ferrie
Going to work in the studio is my relaxation, and quitting my former occupation was the most therapeutic thing I ever did. Despite the 24/7 work week with no paid vacation, benefits, or regular income, I’m more relaxed than I ever have been in my life. There is a lesson in there somewhere.
I am with Bea, the only time I am truly relaxed is when I am in my studio creating away. Close seconds are when I am teaching others the mysteries of making art and practicing Yoga and Tai Chi. Being bored stresses me out, luckily I am rarely bored with so little time and so many paintings left to do. P.S. My husband agrees with Robert, I may be a poor housekeeper; often late and rarely dressed appropriately for the occasion but Dull and Boring I am Not!
Finally, after a lifetime of an inability to sit and do nothing, I am vindicated! I’m with Sandra….cooking, cleaning, and laundry is done ONLY after I’m done in the studio. Often, I let the “Colonel” do the cooking. Dust, I discovered years ago doesn’t look bad if you leave it be….and there’s nothing wrong with wearing the same pair of jeans & paint-smeared shirt 2 days in a row…
I am under forced relaxation right now since I am bed ridden and the relaxation is too much to bear, the bed has become a mini studio!
Yikes! Help! Cue Rod Sterling and the music!!! Up is down and down is up. :-) This sounds like a hypothesis that would be difficult to defend. If “relaxation” equals “stress” for some, then it no longer meets the definition of relaxation for them. One could infer the opposite, namely that some people find stress more relaxing than relaxation. In the 70’s, this sort of desire to set the world on its ear was referred to as “psychobabble.” Teasing aside, I understand what is being conveyed. We are all different. Some will paint to Chopin, while others paint to AC/DC. Brian
In the quiet of relaxation, we fear what we may find within ourselves, those unpleasant thoughts and memories just barely hidden by constant noise and activity.
I am so in! I have 50,000 activities on the go all the time and relax to me is not a nice word. Laurel also has a good point. Working is my relaxation. Too much quiet, thinking time gets me in trouble so work away I say.
Isn’t there a saying; idle hands make ______ a dull boy? Or something to that effect. Lalitha…I just went through that…in fact still can’t do much…driving me crazy and yes, day one after surgery, in my drug-induced state a did two amazingly detailed drawings! My husband brought me my sketch book and some photographs to draw from (a God-send), that kept me sane between naps. Now I am able to crawl up the stairs to my studio (just had knee surgery) and back at it (sitting down)! Laurel; yes…many of us keep busy so our minds don’t wonder to unpleasant memories etc. It is a coping mechanism. People are always amazed at what I am up to and I have had a job since I was 11 years old! At one point I had 3 1/2 jobs going, but I know several people who do that just to pay the bills. One almost has to in order to survive these days. Good post. Something to be aware of.
While the process to create is physically and intellectually work, shifting to the right side of the brain where there is no time is very relaxing.
Amazing, rich, perspicacious (!), THOROUGH, forgiving, researched, personal…all these adjectives describe your letter! Thanks so much for your response. I am trying to breathe through the anxiety and remember how much earthy holy (?) energy there is in sobriety!
Relaxation-induced anxiety…..somehow its comforting to know that theres a name for what Ive got.
Your work habits certainly haven’t produced a “dull boy” but a very interested and inspiring one. Maybe Miss Ayliff was just a bit envious – at least that is how I feel when I meet people who have the energy for all their interests. But instead, I try to focus on how lucky I am to have met such a person and learn what I can. Keep playing/working and especially, writing.
Talk about jealous! If I had a little boy with all that talent and curiosity I’d be thrilled! My husband is pretty curious and often asks questions even at 62! He only relaxes when he sleeps. I don’t have a problem relaxing, unfortunately. I’d like to be busier and harder working.
Relaxation is NOT relaxation sometimes. Because: – sometimes the time, place or people are not easy for relaxation – sometimes, an activity is more relaxing to a person or their health for a bit -or like me with my restart business, I cannot imagine anything else I’d rather be doing, than putting my post-disability life back together – the art, the marketing, issues resolutions , planning, the art, the website , the art …..I think you get my meaning. As a girl, I was like you….busy, busy , creating and learning all I could find to learn – I had this understanding in my mind’s eye that if I was 100% committed to the neat good goals I wanted as grew up , I would get them….and that if I failed, I would be stuck with an unhappy life. That took the iffyness right out of it
“Bobby’s Hobbies”…I love it! In 1994 I quit a job that didn’t give me enough time to weave. I had two weeks off at a set time in the summer, and that just wasn’t enough. I had wanted to take a trip to Costa Rica during the winter. My boss said that I could either work or holiday. I made the right decision, and had the most wonderful time away from the snow and cold! When I came back, I wove to my hearts content and three years later I discovered painting (and not painting the walls of rooms). Through this new found ‘hobby’, I saw the world differently, have met incredible people, and don’t regret my decision. Robson, B.C.
Relaxation is an interesting concept, isn’t it? Each of us has our own definition. Laying about is one idea. Playing with paints and fabric dyes is another. If “working in my studio” is not a good stress reliever, then I am at a loss to know what is. I also relax by digging in the garden, feeding the birds, trying new recipes, baking bread…. Guess I am also a hopeless case!
I have been saying “work is play” to friends for years. I keep saying that doing something you really like to do, no matter how difficult and challenging is fun, therefore play. Some people just don’t get it. Thanks for today’s message, and every Twice Weekly one. Reading them is one way I relax. :-)
At this time of Thanksgiving I just want to thank you for this fine writing, thinking, exploring that you send along twice a week. I have been finding it nourishing and inspiring. It feeds my soul and well-being and hopefully artistry. I deeply value it. Happy Thanksgiving!
If you were dull, we wouldnt all be reading these columns. Regularly too.
The Miss Ayliffs of this world do more to stymie civilization than this world dreams of.
“All work and no play makes Bobby a dull boy,” was no doubt referring to Bobby’s poor showing or lack of ability in sports. Many successful artists had a similar situation in their formative years. It’s too bad, but prowess at sports, while excellent for health, has become a defining virtue in current times. Sports these days has little to do with sportsmanship or character. It seldom advances culture.
The time to relax is when the painting is finished, then prepare yourself for the next one.
Van was a great artist… wow!
Hey, let’s hear it for the dreamers among us! Work is good, yes, and for some therapy it sounds like. But I was a dreamer, I had lots of interests like Robert as a kid, but…..I liked to stare at clouds, make believe I was someone else (like a singer or famous writer, or artist!) etc. I think we all need time to just go away for a bit, in our heads or wherever. This working all the time…. not for me. I need time to just be… for, as the old cliche goes, “we are not human doings, we are human beings.” That said, once you’ve had some time to ponder go put the ideas into action. I need time to filter ideas I can act on.
Well now there is a phrase for my affliction. I always thought it was my “I can do it” attitude. For all of my life (seven decades) revolved around “I can do that”. It has been my driving force for accomplishment and success in everything in my life. It is a form of passion I guess. Would not want it any other way.
I think a lot of people think of relaxation and leisure as boring, a time when there is nothing to do. I know sitting around watching television is about the worst thing I can think of as a mind-numbing activity and I desire to be busy, and that means being productive. Engaging in the creative experience is one of the most fulfilling activities one can do. Who wouldn’t want to paint and create and express the joy of living, of moving, of being motivated to interact with life and life experiences and translate that into art? It’s like thinking, I’d really like to lie on a beach, relax and do nothing, and then you try it, and you last five minutes because you can’t stand the inactivity!
Mr. Genn, I love your newsletters, I love your humor. This entry is fantastic, with the various reasons people might paint, ” a desire to get away from domestic duties or people in general…” etc. all so insightful and true, but too funny to actually admit, for many of us. I have taken up painting for 4 years, otherwise I have been a health care professional for 41 years, and I really enjoy the peace and solitute of painting. And getting away from people with problems What a relief. Your dialogue is always a breath of fresh air. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and ideas so prolifically. With sincere gratitude–Melodie
I find that for the first time in my life, the time in the studio is relaxation; a sort of meditation time creating..sometimes when I look at the creation the next day it is awful, but the process of creating is one where I loose all since of time, day to day hassles etc. I think for a type A personality(me) time in the studio creating is bliss. Now the details of framing, making labels, measuring, inventory are not creative and don’t have that “feel” of timelessness. As a retired psychologist, I don’t like the label of “relaxation-induced anxiety”
o Robert (Bobby, if i may)….. i was smiling broadly, thrillllled with your list of “hobbies”, then my eyes immediately fillled with tears!! did she realllly say that to you? o, I’m so sorry….. I’m going to have to go to the studio and contemplate this further ….. (yet another reason…. a place to consider the meaning of life, away from all distractions….)
Sadly, there are far too many Miss Ayliffs in the school-teaching profession, doing the exact opposite of what they are supposed to do, killing a desire to learn, instead of inspiring and encouraging children. Probably all of us have experience of teachers who made us hate certain school subjects. Plus those who chose to ignore special skills, simply because they weren’t part of the curriculum. What damage she must have done to the rest of the class, in effect telling them that keeping busy learning new things was dull. Thank goodness you didn’t succumb, though it is telling that what she said has stayed with you all these years.
Whitehall Road watercolour painting, 13.5 x 18 inches by Rose Beattie, Christina Lake, BC, Canada |
What are you waiting for? You should be teaching, or perhaps write a book about what you know! There are so many — young and old — who would love to learn more about construction design and technique (like me, for instance). Your obvious love of your subject would come through and would surely inspire some hands-on involvement, or at the very least, help with their own home challenges.